In January 2018 the old white tombstone has been replaced with a new black one. Now including the grave of Barbara's mother.

2018 gravestone 02


The easiest way to get to the cementery is by bus. Take the bus with direction Newmarket (number 11 or 12) it leaves from the busstation in Cambridge

Bus to cemetery


On the 22nd of june 2013 I visited Barbara's grave. There were many flowers left behind. Most of them were withered. Probably put there on Barbara's birthday or on the 14 th of may. There was one fresh flower bouquet.  I cleaned the grave and had a long sit beside it. Asking myself why such a nice wonderfull person had to have such a sad life.

These are the pictures I took.

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Approaching Barbara's grave.


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Barbara's grave when I arrived


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Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.



On the 29th of June 2012, I visited Barbara's grave again. It was warm and mostly sunny day.  When I arrived I discovered that the grave hadn't been maintained the last few months. It was overgrown with weeds and the rosebush was getting very large, covering most of the grave. Time for me to do some clearing up. As I had no garden equipment with me I had to do everything by hand.


While I was attacking the rosebush I noticed that a Chinese couple in their early twenties were looking at me from some distance. It occurred to me that they might be visiting Barbara's grave. So I cleared up most of the mess I made and walked with it to rubbish dump. And yes I was right, the couple immediately went to the grave. As my rug sac was still at the grave and I still had some more clearing to do I thought I better explain to them what I was doing. So I went back to the grave and introduced myself. Obviously the couple did not recognize me and they felt very uncomfortable with me being there. They asked me what I was doing and if I did this every day. They also told me that Barbara had been a very famous actress. I told them that I knew Barbara very well and only visited the grave once a year. I asked them if they had a knife to help me clear away some of the rose bush. That must been a strange situation for them asking for a knife while I standing there with bleeding hands, sweating from the work and making as it seems a mess. They said they couldn't help me and quickly walked away from this awkward situation for them. I think I might have spoiled their visit to Barbara's grave. They probably hoped for a more peace full visit.

I stayed another two hours at the grave, the couple didn't come back. This was for me the first time I met Barbara fans in real life, which was kind of special for me.  


Barbara's grave when I arrived.


Barbara's grave when I left




Barbara's grave can be found at:

Cambridge City Cemetery Newmarket Road Cambridge CB5 8PE

graf plattegrond

graf plattegrond detail


Picture taken in 2011

A fan (Barfan)  made this video of Barbara's grave in 2010





# RE: Barbara's graveMartin 2012-10-19 15:54
Hi Rob, It's so sweet for you to do all of this. I hope I was there at the moment. This is the place I want to go now.
# RE: Barbara's graveBen 2012-10-21 03:34
Rob, you still love Barbara!
Thank you for doing the clearing job for the grave.
# RE: Barbara's graveMartin 2012-10-21 15:15
Quoting Ben:
Rob, you still love Barbara!
Thank you for doing the clearing job for the grave.

After so many years, I think this love is not that one between young boy and yong girl. It is a mix feeling like the love father to daughter, or friend to friend , or to relatives we are missing. Rob, do you think so?
# Barbara's graveTommy 2012-10-21 19:05
Wow Rob! Thanks for setting up this website and show the way to see Barbara's resting place.
# RE: Barbara's graveThup ten 2012-10-25 04:33
I really want to visit her grave. Rob, if she was alive will there be any changes in your current life??
# Missing you ,BarbaraPaul 2012-10-28 10:35
Hi Rob, I'm from China ,my English is poor.I am very like watching Barbara's teleplay as I was a child.Now I am 35,I still reviewed them frequently. Rob, you are a nice guy,you never forget her. I wish you and yr family members have a good life. God bless you.and forever missing you,---Barbara...
# I love BarabraJianye Ning 2012-10-29 07:23
Hello, Rob! I'm from China! When I knew the site from the internet, I was shocked by what you have done! I like the TV of The Legend of The Condor Heroes! I love the girl like Barabra!
Rob, you are a very very nice guy! Very nice!
# RE: Barbara's gravekevin 2013-01-20 15:23
nice to see this
# 她永远活着den 2013-01-21 14:25
# RE: Barbara's gravethup ten 2013-02-11 13:06
happy new year Barbara... i was searching all over the internet just to wish you our new year and i found the perfect place... this is the place where i can find you... miss you always and wherever you are, i pray for your happiness, prosperity and success...
# RE: Barbara's graveCK 2013-02-12 03:24
Happy lunar new year.
Been watching the play again this time. Barbara's excellent play... Miss you and may god bless you
# RE: Barbara's graveBarfan 2013-04-09 21:14
Great job Rob! and with only hands! oh boy!

Pity those fans. I am sure they have no clue whom they have just met! :lol:

Haven't visited here for a while, and the website has been greatly improved. Thanks Rob for all the efforts!

Hope I would have another chance of visiting Barbara this year, and if I do I would surely bring a knife or garden scissors with me!
# RE: Barbara's graveRob 2013-04-10 09:40
Hello Barfan, nice to see that you still visit this site. I continue to try to improve this site and I am glad I get help from some fans in translations (even putting subtitles on videos) , searching for more facts and publicity about Barbara's life.
# Dank, RobMing 2013-12-13 20:15
Lieber Bob,

es ist sehr schmerzvolle Erinnerung when ich die Fotos von Dir sehen. Aber Vielen Dank für Dein Mut und Mühe. Die Fernsehensserie von Barbara ist ein Stück meine Kinderheit und Jungendheit. Ich bin eine Ärtin in Deutschland. Ich kann Dich und sie verstehen. Ich denke wenn sie etwas Hilfe von Psychologie bekommen hätte, wir können heute noch hübsche Barbara sehen. Aber so ist das Leben. Genieß Dein Leben mit Deiner Kind und Frau und Tieren. Schöne Vorweihnachtenzeit.
P.S ich kann auch Dir beim Übersetzen helfen.

Liebe Grüße aus Köln
# RE: Dank, RobRob 2013-12-15 22:10
Hallo Ming,

Vielen Dank für Ihr Kommentar. Ich kann Deutsch lesen, aber nicht sehr gut schreiben, wie Sie schon bemerkt haben.

Vielen Dank auch für das Angebot mir zu helfen, in welcher Weise können Sie helfen?
# RE: Dank, RobMing 2013-12-16 10:19
Hi, Rob,

es mache nichts, ich habe mein Englisch auch fast alles vergessen. Ich kann Englisch lesen aber nicht gut schreiben. Dein Deusch ist gut. Ich habe irgendwie festgestellt, dass die Holländer besonders Sprachtalent besitzen. Sie können Englisch auch sowie Deutsch u.s.w.

Ich kann Dir bei Dir Übersetzung gern hilfen.

Schönen Tag

# RE: Barbara's graveChak湛山子 2013-07-08 02:08
THANKS :D Rob :lol:
# RE: Barbara's graveLo 2013-07-12 08:12
Being remember by so many people even after so many years, she have had a gorgeous life.
# RE: Barbara's graveGloria JV 2013-07-30 04:32
Hi Rob, I just finished watching Barbara's Legend of the Condor Hero and came here and saw her grave photos. It brought tears to my eyes, to see you still cared for her. She was my favourite actress then and her passing was deeply lamented here too in Malaysia.
# reminding BarbaraLove Garg 2013-08-04 12:37
Hi Rob,
you are a such nice person. You have done a great job by crating a platform for us to know her well.
Thanks Rob
# RE: Barbara's graveYanYingZHu 2013-08-13 08:30
why such a nice wonderfull person had to have such a sad life.THANKS VERY MUCH.
# Barbara big fankashif 2013-08-26 00:00
I loved Barbara Drama seris The legend of the condor heroes 1983. It had been lunched in hindi dubb in india's home tv channel. since that i was a big fan of barbara. And also requesting the fans to help me that how can i get her hindi bubb drama series from TVB hong kong ? Because the official email of TVB did't respond well.
# RE: Barbara big fanLo 2013-08-27 00:29
The legend of condor heroes is not available in Hong Kong. I tried that in many video shop last year. You better try to see in the Mainland China. Of course they are either in Putonghua or Cantonese with English subtitle
# RE: Barbara big faneblc2006 2013-08-27 05:04
Great news to Barbara fans. The 15 DVD Set 1983 Legend of Condor Heroes is available again for sale in Hong Kong in big video stores like CD Warehouse, HK Records or HMV.. I just bought one while I was in Hong Kong July 2013. Its about HK$600 or less. Comes with both Putonghua & Cantonese, Traditional/Simplified Chinese and English subtitle.
# RE: Barbara big fanLo 2013-08-31 01:39
Oh yes. I got the DVD set yesterday. I left my phone to the shop this March but they call me to notify the release of the DVD again! Thanks for your information!
# RE: Barbara big fankashif 2013-08-31 11:33
Thank you for for reply. Dear lovers, in fact i am seeking for hindi dubb version DVD. please anyone help me to find out the DVD if he approaches to hong kong video shops.
# RE: Barbara big fanLo 2013-09-13 02:35
I can go to the shop and asked that. Frankly speaking, I have never seen any hindi dubb version TVBI DVD in the shop before, nor in the window of the small local Indian video shop.
# RE: Barbara big fankashif 2013-09-13 16:04
Dear, You must visit the shop first or ask for the Hindi dubbed programs. You can see some clips of Hindi dubbed from site "WWW.hometvasia.blogspot.com"
Thank you for your support.
# other videoaNNIE 2013-09-01 04:14
there's a another video called the third court played by shaomeiqi, besides barbara there is otherthing meaninful to us
# gRAVEaNNIE 2013-09-04 07:28
# RE: gRAVERob 2013-09-04 08:28
Hello Annie, I removed the url of the website in your comment because that website is infected with a virus.
# gRAVEaNNIE 2013-09-04 07:54
# RE: Barbara's graveaNNIE 2013-09-04 09:04
dear Hollad wenmeilin's falf, no problem if there's virus, remove it, don't worry~
# RE: Barbara's graveaNNIE 2013-09-04 09:08
dear Holland wenmeilin's half Mr.Rob, we all like you, when we have no thing to do, we see your web, yes there's love~
# RE: Barbara's graveaNNIE 2013-09-04 09:09
yes,there is lOVE~
# RE: Barbara's graveHenry 2013-09-08 13:04
Thank you for doing all of this, Rob. :-)
# RE: Barbara's graveAndhara 2013-09-10 16:35
Someday...I will visit Barbara's grave and help you to clean up her grave Rob...someday...
# gRAVE?aNNIE 2013-09-12 09:42
# RE: Barbara's gravevivi 2014-02-08 13:54
Until today, there are a lot of people every day scold him sorry Barbara at the Kent blog.
# RE: Barbara's gravebrandon lee 2014-07-13 11:24
thanks you for doing this site!!
# Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.NGUYEN THI THU HONG 2015-01-16 00:50
Dear ROD

I think, Barbara knows what you did for her and I
absolutely support you . thanks you.

# RE: Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.huyvu 2015-02-25 16:42
Quoting Andhara:
Someday...I will visit Barbara's grave and help you to clean up her grave Rob...someday...

Dear ROD

I think, Barbara knows what you did for her and I
absolutely support you . thanks you.


ban oi ban la nguoi Việt Nam hả.minh cung la fan
cua bbr nè
# RE: Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.blingbling 2015-02-27 01:27
ôi mình cũng là người Việt Nam nè, fan BBR
# RE: Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.huy 2015-03-07 23:56
Quoting blingbling:
ôi mình cũng là người Việt Nam nè, fan BBR

hi.ban o dau vay...toi nghiep bbr qua ban oi..i miss her very much
# RE: Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.blingbling 2015-03-12 00:15
mình ở Hà Nội nè, mình cũng nhớ cô ấy quá, mong cô ấy đầu thai và có cuộc sống hạnh phúc. mà mình thấy cô ấy vốn không định chết mà chỉ dọa TTN thôi à, các bức thư cô ấy vẫn rất lạc quan, nếu cô định chết thật thì phải để lại thư tuyệt mệnh cho mẹ cô chứ, ngoài TTN thì cô cũng rất yêu mẹ mình mà. :(
# RE: Barbara's graveJames Chen 2015-06-24 06:46
You did the good thing.
Barbara would sleep in peace.
# RE: Barbara's grave钟爱翁美玲 2016-01-11 09:40
It's a pity that the young man didn't recognize you.
# Mr.Lee 2016-01-29 04:27
You could never imagine how she impressed me when I was kinda 10 years old the first time I watched her role as Huang, Rong. Tx for sharing all the memorable time you spent with her.
# Rob & Barbara雅China 2016-02-20 17:19
I've read all the information here, including a message. I really like both of you and your story. The story touched me. I know you are very good, worthy of Barbara Yung will see you as the love of life. You can have her love for you. I spent a lot of time searching for the answer to your last question, and I think I found it. Her words: "darling, I love you", this "Darling" refers only to the real you. If you want to know the basis of my judgment, I will send a message to you.
Hope you can be happy.
# RE: Rob & BarbaraRob 2016-02-21 21:31
Hello, oh yes I am interested in you came to your judgement.
# RE: Rob & Barbarafukada 2016-02-22 02:22
# RE: Rob & Barbarafukada 2016-02-22 04:30
我也找到许多观点,证明那句不是写给他的。现在的回忆,我们看到的更多的是美好,但如果真的那么美好,当时就不会分手了,rob执意要去荷兰,阿翁很无奈。以至于她对媒体说“在英国八年未遇到刻骨铭心的恋情。”(我不知道怎么上传这张图片,她是真真切切的放下这段感情了。) 和汤吵架后 阿翁曾在醉酒后哭着说不想分手想结婚。还有网友写的一文章,(我的英语不好,没办法给rob翻译,)
別的不說,傳呼台留言這件事根本沒辦法忽視。翁美玲出事後湯鎮業幾乎完全沒接受採訪,傳媒可能是根據邏輯判斷,認為阿翁自殺那天晚上先找過湯鎮業,之後才連絡了鄒世龍。傳呼湯沒回,翁美玲留台說要是不復機,就再也聽不見她的聲音。(傳呼機是一種BB 扣,香港有傳呼台服務,幫人代為轉達留話。在手機普及前是當年熱門的聯絡工具,人腰一台,沒經歷過的小朋友看懷舊港片可以看到。。。) 多年後湯證實確實有這個事。當晚他是關機的,傳呼他的時間也很晚了,電視劇錄影是中午開始到半夜,湯鎮業拍完就回家倒頭大睡,直到5月14日早上被電話吵醒才知道出事。關機據他自己說就是刻意的,理由是兩人鬧的心很煩,想靜一靜;湯說當時誰也不讓誰,沒有人願意先低頭。怎麼說,陰錯陽差吧,電影裡總是能千鈞一髮,現實人生沒有第二次機會。
# RE: Rob & Barbara雅China 2016-02-22 16:05
# RE: Rob & Barbaraiafmw 2016-02-22 10:54
是給湯(ken)的,湯鎮業後在西式西式的花圈上寫著,:“DEAREST BARBARA I LOVE YOU FOREVER LOVER KENT。對應著她的這句。但現在討論這些已經不重要了,為什麼他們當時不懂得珍惜阿翁?過去的事情就讓他過去吧。這個問題其實根本沒有必要討論。
# RE: Rob & Barbara雅China 2016-02-22 13:54
Quoting iafmw:
是給湯(ken)的,湯鎮業後在西式西式的花圈上寫著,:“DEAREST BARBARA I LOVE YOU FOREVER LOVER KENT。對應著她的這句。但現在討論這些已經不重要了,為什麼他們當時不懂得珍惜阿翁?過去的事情就讓他過去吧。這個問題其實根本沒有必要討論。

谢谢你的回复。你有你的想法,我可以理解。现在,唯一知道这个问题答案的人已经离我们而去。我们的答案都是建立在自己的了解、理解和判断上面。逝者安息,生者释然,不论是对Rob或Ken,希望他们两位都可以开心的过以后的生活。我对他们二位亦是真诚的尊敬,他们都非常优秀。美玲亦被他们视为至爱,这种感情都是曾经真切的存在。结果绝非他们想要、想象到和可以控制的,如果可以,希望不要再责怪他们好吗?(我相信来这里的人对美玲亦是异常有感情 ,否则事隔31年不会再此有交集。愿每一个人幸福永远!)
# RE: Rob & Barbaraiafmw 2016-02-23 04:50
是的,你說的沒錯,一直以來我覺得rob和ken都是溫暖的人,阿翁的自殺更多是因為她的個性。但我很反感rob對於這句話的懷疑,阿翁是這種人嗎?她從英國來香港時已徹底放棄、忘記那段感情了,她自己說過,她是個敢愛敢恨的人。她對ken愛的致深,也是慘案發生後,才知道的。她曾多次夢到ken不要她,哭著從夢裡醒來,她曾對戴師母說“我做娛樂圈小人太多,傳我和苗僑偉、梁朝偉要好,苗和湯两個人是朋友,我和阿湯的感情這樣深,已無人可代替,我從來都未喜歡過第二個。” 還說“今年我二十六歲了。又老了一歲了,到現在和阿湯的感情還未定下來,他日我老了,萬一他不要我了,怎麼辦?” 可見阿翁當時有多愛ken,很害怕失去他。 如果她當時還想著rob為什麼不打個電話給他?把字寫在日曆台上,遠在荷蘭的rob也不知道。擁有她寓所門鑰匙的人,除了她自己,就是ken了。看了這些,你還覺得是寫給rob的嗎?說句不好聽的,不了解阿翁的人看了rob的問題會以為她是個朝三暮四的人,但相信大多數人對這句話寫給誰是顯而易見的。你們的回覆只會滿足rob的自戀情節。你看,前女友到死前還想著我,我是有多讓人迷戀。也是對阿翁感情的侮辱。所以事情已經過去了,這句話沒有必要再提了,寫給誰顯然已經不重要了。正因為我們是真正喜歡阿翁,所以我會從許多資料上來反駁rob的觀點(如有需要我還有更多的論點來說明 )。 這是我的看法,如有不妥,還請多多原諒。
# barbara like [Tokyo love story]'s rikafukada 2016-02-23 10:43
阿翁和東京ラブストーリー的女主角莉香很像。性格:看上去都是很外向,但内心都是很敏感、脆弱。对爱情都是非常执着。把开心留给别人,悲伤留给自己。笑容都让人感到温暖。都是我喜欢的女孩。 :D 只是阿翁没有莉香坚强。 I love them [youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TcRkkfxi_ac[/youtube]
# Love Yellow YungIris 2016-03-12 06:58
Thanks Rob and your sharing. This is a wonderful web-site for us.
We love Barbara and miss her so much.
Wish you the best and all her fans the best too.
# China满心蓉儿 2016-04-14 07:08
# RE: Barbara's graveiafmw 2016-04-15 10:51
記者采訪他時 Rob說:我不知道她為什麽用英文寫下了那些字。當我被告知時,我想到的第壹件事就是“噢!不!我希望那不是對我說的”。我開始去尋找她的人生故事,希望能找到在我們分手之後,她還有另外說英語的男朋友,但我還沒有找到。 好吧~~ 退壹萬步來說,當時的鄒不是留美回來嗎?他能不懂英語?rob這方面怎麽沒調查到。當時就算是寫給鄒也不會寫給rob啊,再說這句英語大部份人都能看懂吧?要一定的英語水平才能懂嗎?還有一點大家要了解,和rob的戀情,是阿翁提出分手的,而和湯的戀情是湯提出分手的,翁當時是不太願意分手的。她當時不一定是真的想死,是只是嚇嚇某人。讓他來救她,讓他看到日曆台上的這句話,(當時有翁房屋鑰匙的人,只有湯)大家如果有空去看下http://bbs.tianya.cn/post-funinfo-5720318-1.shtml 壹位資深粉絲寫的,就能明白阿翁在生命最後有多在意湯。對湯愛的有多深。我所提出的這些觀點,只想告訴大家,阿翁是一個感情專一的人,不要被某人的文章誤會為她是一個朝三暮四的女孩,而且從rob的文章來看,從他單方面的敘述才讓大家覺得美好,如果從阿翁的角度來看,可能未必美好,我沒有發現rob為這段感情付出過什么。
# 3 thingsMelissa from Brisbane Australia 2016-07-25 11:27
To Rob - you are such an inspiration, so warm hearted, so kind and generous towards Barbara then and now. Hope lots of good things will go your way because you deserve every bit of it.

To Barbara - you first caught my attention 33 years ago when I was a teenager and to this day you remain in my books as an 'icon' of all times. 'YOU ARE THE ONE AND ONLY'. Thinking of you.

To all Barbara fans around the world - I need to track down all of Barbara's shows but could only find The Legend of the Condor Heroes. Appreciate your help in finding the rest of Barbara's shows, just to name a few, The Foundation, The Fearless Duo etc etc... Thank-you in anticipation.

Rob, any news on barbara's biography? Hope the publisher isnt holding you up? Cant wait to get a copy.
# RE: 3 thingsRob R 2016-07-26 09:47
Hello Melissa, thank you for your compliment. The book will take a bit more time as since I met Barbara's family they are providing me with a lot more informatie, which I like to include in the book.

Like you I also have been looking for those shows, I only found two with subtitles (the legend and the fearless duo). All the others are difficult to find although I managed to get a copy of (not subtitled) The rough ride.
# RE: Barbara's graveyan 2017-02-26 12:13
i am planning to go there during easter holidays, still dont know how long to get visa from Germany as chinese citizen
# RE: Barbara's grave高少乾 2019-07-19 01:40
# RE: Barbara's gravethispoint 2021-04-03 04:05
Hi rob,I am barbara fan from Chinese, today is Chinese traditional festivals the QingMing festival.A few hours ago, I sweep the tombs for my Ancestors. In foreign,is there same festival to miss the people who pass away? Will you to visit barbara's grave?
# RE: Barbara's graveRob 2021-04-03 12:59
Here we have "All souls day". It a Christian ceremony, it is a day of prayer and remembrance for the souls of those who have died. On this day graves are often being decorated with flowers. It is held at the 2nd of November. Because of Covid I won't be going to England and Cambridge this year.
# RE: Barbara's gravethispoint 2021-04-04 06:44
I can understand that Covid has a serious impact in England. Thank you very much for this website which has a pretty good place to reminisce barbara. You are a very nice man, I wish all of your family keep health and happy.
# RE: Barbara's graveRob 2021-04-04 10:02
Thank you for your kind wishes.
# RE: Barbara's gravePasserby 2021-04-04 11:28
Interesting. I don't know that there is a Christian ceremony festival - All soul Day. I know nothing about it. Thanks for your sharing.