2018
In January 2018 the old white tombstone has been replaced with a new black one. Now including the grave of Barbara's mother.
The easiest way to get to the cementery is by bus. Take the bus with direction Newmarket (number 11 or 12) it leaves from the busstation in Cambridge
2013
On the 22nd of june 2013 I visited Barbara's grave. There were many flowers left behind. Most of them were withered. Probably put there on Barbara's birthday or on the 14 th of may. There was one fresh flower bouquet. I cleaned the grave and had a long sit beside it. Asking myself why such a nice wonderfull person had to have such a sad life.
These are the pictures I took.
Approaching Barbara's grave.
Barbara's grave when I arrived
Barbara's grave after I cleaned it up.
2012
On the 29th of June 2012, I visited Barbara's grave again. It was warm and mostly sunny day. When I arrived I discovered that the grave hadn't been maintained the last few months. It was overgrown with weeds and the rosebush was getting very large, covering most of the grave. Time for me to do some clearing up. As I had no garden equipment with me I had to do everything by hand.
While I was attacking the rosebush I noticed that a Chinese couple in their early twenties were looking at me from some distance. It occurred to me that they might be visiting Barbara's grave. So I cleared up most of the mess I made and walked with it to rubbish dump. And yes I was right, the couple immediately went to the grave. As my rug sac was still at the grave and I still had some more clearing to do I thought I better explain to them what I was doing. So I went back to the grave and introduced myself. Obviously the couple did not recognize me and they felt very uncomfortable with me being there. They asked me what I was doing and if I did this every day. They also told me that Barbara had been a very famous actress. I told them that I knew Barbara very well and only visited the grave once a year. I asked them if they had a knife to help me clear away some of the rose bush. That must been a strange situation for them asking for a knife while I standing there with bleeding hands, sweating from the work and making as it seems a mess. They said they couldn't help me and quickly walked away from this awkward situation for them. I think I might have spoiled their visit to Barbara's grave. They probably hoped for a more peace full visit.
I stayed another two hours at the grave, the couple didn't come back. This was for me the first time I met Barbara fans in real life, which was kind of special for me.
Barbara's grave when I arrived.
Barbara's grave when I left
Barbara's grave can be found at:
Cambridge City Cemetery Newmarket Road Cambridge CB5 8PE
Picture taken in 2011
A fan (Barfan) made this video of Barbara's grave in 2010
Comments
Thank you for doing the clearing job for the grave.
After so many years, I think this love is not that one between young boy and yong girl. It is a mix feeling like the love father to daughter, or friend to friend , or to relatives we are missing. Rob, do you think so?
Rob, you are a very very nice guy! Very nice!
Been watching the play again this time. Barbara's excellent play... Miss you and may god bless you
Pity those fans. I am sure they have no clue whom they have just met!
Haven't visited here for a while, and the website has been greatly improved. Thanks Rob for all the efforts!
Hope I would have another chance of visiting Barbara this year, and if I do I would surely bring a knife or garden scissors with me!
es ist sehr schmerzvolle Erinnerung when ich die Fotos von Dir sehen. Aber Vielen Dank für Dein Mut und Mühe. Die Fernsehensserie von Barbara ist ein Stück meine Kinderheit und Jungendheit. Ich bin eine Ärtin in Deutschland. Ich kann Dich und sie verstehen. Ich denke wenn sie etwas Hilfe von Psychologie bekommen hätte, wir können heute noch hübsche Barbara sehen. Aber so ist das Leben. Genieß Dein Leben mit Deiner Kind und Frau und Tieren. Schöne Vorweihnachtenzeit.
P.S ich kann auch Dir beim Übersetzen helfen.
Liebe Grüße aus Köln
Vielen Dank für Ihr Kommentar. Ich kann Deutsch lesen, aber nicht sehr gut schreiben, wie Sie schon bemerkt haben.
Vielen Dank auch für das Angebot mir zu helfen, in welcher Weise können Sie helfen?
es mache nichts, ich habe mein Englisch auch fast alles vergessen. Ich kann Englisch lesen aber nicht gut schreiben. Dein Deusch ist gut. Ich habe irgendwie festgestellt, dass die Holländer besonders Sprachtalent besitzen. Sie können Englisch auch sowie Deutsch u.s.w.
Ich kann Dir bei Dir Übersetzung gern hilfen.
Schönen Tag
Ming
Being remember by so many people even after so many years, she have had a gorgeous life.
you are a such nice person. You have done a great job by crating a platform for us to know her well.
Thanks Rob
Thank you for your support.
I think, Barbara knows what you did for her and I
absolutely support you . thanks you.
Hồng.
Quoting NGUYEN THI THU HONG:
ban oi ban la nguoi Việt Nam hả.minh cung la fan
cua bbr nè
hi.ban o dau vay...toi nghiep bbr qua ban oi..i miss her very much
Barbara would sleep in peace.
B.R.
Lee
Hope you can be happy.
我读完了这里的所有信息,包括留言。我非常喜欢你们俩个和你们的故事,故事感动到我了。据我了解,你非常好,不愧翁美玲会视你为一生中的至爱。你对得起她对你的爱。我花了很多时间来寻找你提出来最后的一个问题的答案,我想我找到了。她的遗言:“达令,我爱你”,这个“达令”真正的只是指你。如果你想知道我判断的依据,我会发邮件给你。
希望你可以欣慰。
這幾年一直有人寫文章表示當年其實根本沒湯鎮業的事,有說當時誹聞男友鄒世龍才是阿翁輕生的原因,還有人傳說當時另有一個不知名的神秘第三人,但是這些說法都明顯的荒誕。
其中有一篇從豆瓣轉載到天涯被廣泛討論的文字說翁美玲到死懷念的仍是初戀男友。我看了都笑了。文章蒐證的很齊全但結論歸納的很幼稚。男人也許會懷念初戀女友,但女人則不,我從沒見過哪個女人15歲時喜歡的人到25歲時還覺得很美好的。而除了初戀最美這個論點以外,作者更驚人的還是認為由於初戀荷蘭男友曾表示阿翁以前跟他同居,兩人有肌膚之親,而作者認為種種跡象卻顯示翁美玲跟湯鎮業沒有真的同居一室,所以兩人其實沒有過身體上的接觸,由此可證阿翁的真愛是付出了身心的初戀男友。這樣的說法我只能說是天真少女的想當然爾。
別的不說,傳呼台留言這件事根本沒辦法忽視。翁美玲出事後湯鎮業幾乎完全沒接受採訪,傳媒可能是根據邏輯判斷,認為阿翁自殺那天晚上先找過湯鎮業,之後才連絡了鄒世龍。傳呼湯沒回,翁美玲留台說要是不復機,就再也聽不見她的聲音。(傳呼機是一種BB 扣,香港有傳呼台服務,幫人代為轉達留話。在手機普及前是當年熱門的聯絡工具,人腰一台,沒經歷過的小朋友看懷舊港片可以看到。。。) 多年後湯證實確實有這個事。當晚他是關機的,傳呼他的時間也很晚了,電視劇錄影是中午開始到半夜,湯鎮業拍完就回家倒頭大睡,直到5月14日早上被電話吵醒才知道出事。關機據他自己說就是刻意的,理由是兩人鬧的心很煩,想靜一靜;湯說當時誰也不讓誰,沒有人願意先低頭。怎麼說,陰錯陽差吧,電影裡總是能千鈞一髮,現實人生沒有第二次機會。
谢谢你的回复。你有你的想法,我可以理解。现在,唯一知道这个问题答案的人已经离我们而去。我们的答案都是建立在自己的了解、理解和判断上面。逝者安息,生者释然,不论是对Rob或Ken,希望他们两位都可以开心的过以后的生活。我对他们二位亦是真诚的尊敬,他们都非常优秀。美玲亦被他们视为至爱,这种感情都是曾经真切的存在。结果绝非他们想要、想象到和可以控制的,如果可以,希望不要再责怪他们好吗?(我相信来这里的人对美玲亦是异常有感情 ,否则事隔31年不会再此有交集。愿每一个人幸福永远!)
We love Barbara and miss her so much.
Wish you the best and all her fans the best too.
記者采訪他時 Rob說:我不知道她為什麽用英文寫下了那些字。當我被告知時,我想到的第壹件事就是“噢!不!我希望那不是對我說的”。我開始去尋找她的人生故事,希望能找到在我們分手之後,她還有另外說英語的男朋友,但我還沒有找到。 好吧~~ 退壹萬步來說,當時的鄒不是留美回來嗎?他能不懂英語?rob這方面怎麽沒調查到。當時就算是寫給鄒也不會寫給rob啊,再說這句英語大部份人都能看懂吧?要一定的英語水平才能懂嗎?還有一點大家要了解,和rob的戀情,是阿翁提出分手的,而和湯的戀情是湯提出分手的,翁當時是不太願意分手的。她當時不一定是真的想死,是只是嚇嚇某人。讓他來救她,讓他看到日曆台上的這句話,(當時有翁房屋鑰匙的人,只有湯)大家如果有空去看下http://bbs.tianya.cn/post-funinfo-5720318-1.shtml 壹位資深粉絲寫的,就能明白阿翁在生命最後有多在意湯。對湯愛的有多深。我所提出的這些觀點,只想告訴大家,阿翁是一個感情專一的人,不要被某人的文章誤會為她是一個朝三暮四的女孩,而且從rob的文章來看,從他單方面的敘述才讓大家覺得美好,如果從阿翁的角度來看,可能未必美好,我沒有發現rob為這段感情付出過什么。
To Barbara - you first caught my attention 33 years ago when I was a teenager and to this day you remain in my books as an 'icon' of all times. 'YOU ARE THE ONE AND ONLY'. Thinking of you.
To all Barbara fans around the world - I need to track down all of Barbara's shows but could only find The Legend of the Condor Heroes. Appreciate your help in finding the rest of Barbara's shows, just to name a few, The Foundation, The Fearless Duo etc etc... Thank-you in anticipation.
Rob, any news on barbara's biography? Hope the publisher isnt holding you up? Cant wait to get a copy.
Like you I also have been looking for those shows, I only found two with subtitles (the legend and the fearless duo). All the others are difficult to find although I managed to get a copy of (not subtitled) The rough ride.
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