I can still remember the first time I met Barbara in 1976. She sat as always alone in the canteen of the CCAT (Cambridge College of Art and Technology), and as always she was writing in a black book. She never sat in the popular coffee shop of the CCAT, The Batman. She made me curious, this solitary Chinese girl with long hair till her waist. I went to sit opposite her and asked what she was writing. With a northern London accent she told me that it was her dairy and she showed it to me. I couldn't read the Chinese letters but I recognized the words 'leaving on a jet plan' of the song of John Denver. I also recognized the sentence 'You always smile but in your eyes your sorrow shows ' from the song Without You by Harry Nillson.

A few days after some of my friends joined us in the canteen. In this group Barbara easily blended in. She was very cheerful and stood up for herself. She pronounced some words with a typical London accent that with her Chinese appearance made was a surprisingly combination. Barbara soon discovered that the coffee shop the Batman was a much nicer place to be. Often I would find her there with my friends. One of these friends was Sue, she had long blond hair also till her waste and she was about the same size as Barbara. It was lovely to see Barbara and Sue from behind when they walked next to each other. Both long hair, hanging lose but in different colours.

The problem was that I couldn't see Barbara alone. There was always someone around. Several times I had asked her to go out with me in the weekend. Every time she told me that she couldn't come. She had to work at the fish and chip shop.

Then I discovered that Barbara went to the library after school. She didn't want to go home immediately and went to the library to look at picture books for ideas for her drawings. I went also to the library to join her. This time there were no friends around, just the two of us. The first few times I came she was doing her school work, later she pretended she was working, after that she didn't even pretend and after a few weeks she didn't even bother to go the library and waited outside for me. We were very pleased with each other's company. We told each about each other life's. Our life's were completely different from each other. She told me about the Chinese culture and her way of life in England and I told her about my Dutch way of life in England. We had great fun telling each other these stories.

When it was time to go home we walked together to the Cambridge bus station, from there she took the bus to Histon. During these walks Barbara told me more about her life. About her father who had died when she was young, that she had to leave Hong Kong to go to London. How difficult it was for her then to leave her friends. She also explained how she finally ended up in the fish and chip shop in Histon.

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(I remember that Barbara was working on this drawing when I first visited her in the library)

 

 

我们是怎么相识的

我仍然能回想起1976年我第一次遇见翁美玲。她像往常一样独自一人坐在CCAT(剑桥艺术科学学院)的学生食堂里面,她也总是在一个黑色笔记本里面写着什么东西。翁美玲从不坐在当时学校很流行的咖啡馆--蜘蛛侠咖啡馆里。我对她,一个孤独的留着长长头发的中国女孩开始产生了好奇。我第一次走到她的面前,问她,"你在写什么?"。"我在写我的日志",带着北伦敦英语口音的她回答到。她把日志递给我让我看。 我读不懂中文,但我能看懂日志里面的几句英文歌词,其中有《坐着喷气式飞机离开》,约翰丹佛的歌。我同时也能辨认出一句哈里.尼尔森的歌《失去你》中的一句英文句子--"你总是微笑,但在你眼中却能看见忧伤。"

我和翁美玲第一次相识的几天之后,我的朋友们也加入了我们,和我们俩一起在学校食堂里吃饭。翁美玲很快的和我的好朋友打成了一片,她十分开心,总是支持自己。让我们非常吃惊和有意思的是,这个黑头发的中国面孔女孩说着一口带有典型伦敦口音的英语。翁美玲也很快发现,学校的咖啡店-蜘蛛人咖啡馆相比食堂是个更好的地方。从那以后,我经常能看见她和我的朋友在蜘蛛人咖啡馆一起。其中的一个朋友叫苏,她拥有一头很长的金发,同时她和翁美玲体型都差不多。看着翁美玲和苏走在一起时的背影是件很惬意的事情。同样是两个长头发女孩,头发也都是松散的披在肩上但却又是不同的两种颜色。
我意识到问题是我没有和翁美玲独处的机会。总是有其他人在旁边。很多次我邀请她周末和我一起出门。但每次她却说不行。她说她必须要在鱼肉薯片店工作。

很快我发现翁美玲总是放学后去学校图书馆。她不喜欢放学后就直接回家,而是去图书馆看些能给她创作灵感的设计图册。于是,我也去图书馆加入她。此时此刻就只有我和她,没有其她的人在我们旁边。最初,她只是在看书,之后我能感觉她只是装作在认真看,到了最后她甚至不再装着看书。她开始不厌烦的在图书馆外面等我。我们彼此都喜欢在一起,在图书馆互相陪伴着对方。我们谈论着彼此的生活。当然,我们各自的生活都是非常的不同。她给我讲中国文化和她在英国的日子,而我通常给她聊我荷兰背景在英国的生活。我们在聊天中十分的快乐。

到了回家的时候,我们总是一起走到剑桥大学的公交车站,从那里她坐车到希斯顿。在前往车站的路上,她给我了讲关于她更多的故事。-她父亲在她很小的时候就去世了,她不得不和母亲离开香港去伦敦。离开香港的朋友们对她起初是件多么困难的事情。那首日志里提到的约翰丹佛的《坐着喷气式飞机离开》就是她临走香港时朋友给她送行放的歌。然后她告诉我她是怎么最后在希斯顿的鱼肉薯片餐厅工作。

 

(translated by Zhi)

 

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# RE: How we metGuest 2010-06-12 20:06
i love watching all her series, lucky for me that i live in cambridge, it only 15 mins to travl to her grave, we visit her grave over a week ago and suprise to see her grave very clean and very very well look after, well visit again
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# Miss her for everKingyang 2013-07-01 13:06
I'm Chinese man I know Barbara's stories ,especially her films , she's been living in my mind for ever .
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# Re# How we met - candaceGuest 2010-06-22 15:35
This is sweet love story. Looking forward to see your story from 1978
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# i miss herGuest 2010-06-23 18:56
i miss her , thx for telling us the story, seem like i close to her , miss her forever, thx
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# RE: How we metGuest 2010-06-28 21:36
1976... Barbara was 16/17 years old... As it's said in Chinese, 16 is a girl's most beautiful age...

I know it's silly to say this and most probably you couldn't care less, but Rob, you are the luckiest guy in this world in the mind of many many (ironically, Chinese) guys.
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# How we metGuest 2010-06-29 09:16
Barbara Yung was an famous actress in China, I like her very much. In 《射雕英雄传》, How smart and cute she is!
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# RE: How we metGuest 2010-07-01 13:14
Barbara Yung was my flavourite actress. Too bad she committed suicide at the age of 26.
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# RE: How we metGuest 2010-07-03 13:05
Love her. Hello Rob. I was only 6 years old when I watched 《射雕英雄传》the first time. We had only one TV in my village.
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# thanksGuest 2010-07-07 19:30
Thanks for sharing this Rob...it has been 25 years that Barbara left us..but she is loved by millions of Chinese fans for ever.
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# RE: How we metGuest 2010-07-09 04:16
I got to know this site fm a magazine... I was studying in Glasgow about 12 yrs back, if only I know about this fish and chip shop, I would have visited. I love Barbara since 80s when I was a small kid. Extremely sad about her death. I cried so much.
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# RE: How we metGuest 2010-07-12 06:39
Hello , Robert. Thanks for sharing precious pictures and the truth stories . I miss her so much , love her forever
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# henryGuest 2010-07-15 04:00
hi robert ,thanks for sharing her photos that i never seen ,i miss her so much!
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# Mr.Guest 2010-07-20 09:40
Hi Rob, I wish i was you....her every smile and facial expression in the serials are heavenly adorable..... I miss her too much. you loving her forever,isn't it? ;-)
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# RE: Mr.Guest 2010-07-21 01:46
u have a nepali last name :) i am glad to see one more nepali in this forum

but then u could very well be from india. anyways, cheers :lol:


barbara yung was epic as huang rong !!!
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# Mr.Guest 2010-07-22 22:32
Hey thanks....I am also a great fan of LOCH.....but idk why you mentioned abt the india!!coming to the point..i really involve in thinking abt her whole life and also the life in London,,actually i am also from london..
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# I miss her tooSharon 2011-01-07 22:16
Thanks for sharing your story, Barbara was one of my favorite Hong Kong actress.
I didnt know she had a relationship with a Dutch guy.. I'm from Holland too.
Even it's a very long time ago that she'd passed away, miss her every day.
Like her acting, her cheerfulness ( I think I love everything about her)

Dank je wel, vooral de leuke foto's van haar ;)
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# RE: How we met (1976)Xiaoming 2011-02-09 07:27
Rob,

Thank you so much. I've read the Chinese version of all stories and start to read about your original English version. I appreciate the happyness you gave her, which made me feel a little better for her--at least she had some happy time with you and nice feeling with your family.
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# Dr.Andrew Shum 2011-08-07 04:38
She passed away in the prime of her life, at the height of her beauty and popularity. I have watched so many of my childhood idols ravaged by age and illnesses to mere skeletons of their former selves and feel sad There is a Chinese saying that goes something like “beautiful women and great warriors should never be allowed to grow old”. Not meaning to be cruel but perhaps her passing away early may be a mixed blessing as people will always remember her as the innocent beauty she was. Another thought is if she never rose to fame, maybe she could have enjoyed longer the simple life she obviously was enjoying. Too many if’s. The fact remains the World lost a beautiful, happy and innocent girl, one around whom legends, fairy tales and love stories are fittingly built.
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# RE: How we met (1976)Steve 2011-08-24 22:19
I came across your story while trying to find traces of my own lost love. I was an American airman on a two year assignment to England. I met Bridget in 1980. She attended CCAT. I often met her in The Batman for tea between classes. We fell in love and I ended up staying in England for nine years. We married but divorced after some of her friends convinced her I was a foreign invader and baby killer. I haven't seen her since just before Christmas of 1988 and I love her still. More now than ever. She lives in Kent and I live in Florida. I would move back this instant if she would have me back. I wonder if you knew her.
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# RE: RE: How we met (1976)Rob 2011-08-25 08:01
Hello Steve, what a touching story, if you give me some more information about Bridget(by mail), it might stimulate my memory (or those of my English friends). who knows, she might even remember Barbara.
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# RE: How we met (1976)Joseph 2012-04-24 17:29
This is an incredible story. I find many parallels to Barbara's story with mine. I used to live very near the flat where Barbara committed suicide. I could understand her loneliness after coming to the UK as I myself went to a boarding school in Northern England and Oxford from 1980 to 1993. I spent a holiday once with a family with a restaurant and it is really hard work with crazy hours. She is a very strong girl and she is lucky that you have been with her during all those years. Thank you for sharing your experience with me. It does bring back a lot of memory back ...
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# RE: How we met (1976)koala 2012-05-30 18:31
It's been being a touching story about Barbara and it will be forever..

In memory of Barbara Yung
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# missZhifeng Zhou 2013-01-20 16:38
:D
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# miss againZhifeng Zhou 2013-01-20 16:43
Thanks for sharing your story and pictures, Barbara was one of my favorite Hong Kong actress,chinese love her forever!!!
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)poplar 2013-01-25 12:19
miss her for ever
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)Jen 2013-06-02 19:39
Thanks for sharing your memories of her. Very touching
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)Venus 2013-07-27 22:53
Dank u voor uw herinneringen, en foto's. Toevallig heb ik deze website gevonden. Wij kunnen een totaal andere Barbara zien van al die foto's en fragments.
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# differenta women 2013-10-03 10:34
thank you for ur words and pictures
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# love hertess 2013-10-11 15:26
初中的时候特别喜欢翁美玲,非常喜欢,虽然对她了解的不多,但是她美丽的外表和由内散发出的纯真阳光的气质深深打动我。也为她自杀感到遗憾。现在长大了,倒是能明白她心理的辛苦了,我想她家庭的成长环境是她人生命运的根源,一个并不自由缺少尊重和爱的家庭,她的阳光是真的,她的孤独也是真的。她是个善良而可爱的人。我们都很爱她。博主在这里分享了很多和她的生活点滴,真实而有趣,谢谢!恋爱中的她也是有过那么多快乐的。我们都会记住她。
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# a lovely ladycarina 2013-10-25 02:53
Her smile is the most beautiful one that I have ever seen. Hope her live a happy life in the heaven.
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# Thank you!Yuan 2013-12-28 06:03
Thank you so much for building this website and share your stories with Barbara with us. :D
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# Thank you for keeping all the memories!Peng Juan 2014-05-07 14:36
Thank you for keeping all the memories and taking all this trouble of sharing! Wish you all the best!
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# Angel TiredDavid 2014-08-08 08:41
It is hard to measure how long one lived in the world. Twenty-six sometimes means forever cause she is living in our mind with forgettable face. Life likes a movie, she selected pausing the movie when she was shining, leaving the story no end. She got the peace, I got the pain. Who wins? God knows.
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# First meet.NGUYEN THI THU HONG 2015-01-05 04:20
Yeah, This is sweet love story until now I know.
Her artistic talent.
Thank you so much for building this website and share your stories with Barbara with us.

Thu Hong
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# MissNina 2015-06-15 03:47
Hello, Rob. I am a lady from China. I feel good to read your story with Babara and thanks that you share it for all people loved her. I am touched as reading all your writing with memories about your love story with Babara and I could not stop reading all until midnight even I was tearing! I got tearing because I got to know there was a Ducth boy truly loved Babara and spent the most happiest time with her in her best time.Also, I have similar story as yours and it reminds a lot of my memoeries with my Germany BF years ago. Babara was lucky to be with you and I think you are the boy she loved the most in her life . After reading all your story, I think the last writing Babara before she left this world, " I LOVE YOU, DARLING!" , the one she wanted to tell was you! The last moment, memoeris with you must had come to her mind and she loved you trully , but sad that she was too coward to against her family to follow you. I can feel you loved each other deeply!
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)Sarah 2015-06-16 06:30
i just read about miss young today, got all carried away with her story, her shows and her tragic ending of life. I visited Cambridge in March, but did not know about her story at that time, otherwise, I would visit her grave for sure. I really love her as a good woman and a good actor.
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)钟爱翁美玲 2016-01-10 11:58
Leaving on a jet plane :All my bags are packed I'm ready to go I'm standing here outside your door I hate to wake you up to say goodbye But the dawn is breaking It's early morn The taxi's waiting He's blowing his horn Already I'm so lonesome I could cry So kiss me and smile for me Tell me that you'll wait for me Hold me like you'll never let me go I'm leaving on a jet plane I don't know when I'll be back again Oh babe, I hate to go There's so many times I've let you down So many times I've played around I tell you now, they don't mean a thing Every place I go, I'll think of you Every song I sing, I'll sing for you When I come back, I'll wear your wedding ring Now the time has come to leave you One more time, let me kiss you Then close your eyes I'll be on my way Dream about the days to come When I won't have to leave alone About the times, I won't have to say
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# without uqicool 2016-05-14 15:42
'You always smile but in your eyes your sorrow shows ' from the song Without You by Badfinger at 1970.
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# Photographs and MemoriesMatthew 2018-10-27 17:17
Photographs and memories, Christmas cards you sent to me
All that I have are these,To remember you

Memories that come at night, Take me to another time
Back to a happier day,When I called you mine
But we sure had a good time, When we started way back when

Morning walks and bedroom talks...Oh, how I loved you then
Summer skies and lullabies, Nights we couldn't say good-bye
And of all of the things that we knew,Not a dream survived....
Photographs and memories

Singer: Jim Croce
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)Sarah Huang 2018-11-16 15:33
Hi Rob, Today I started reading stories between you and Barbara the second time. I never feel enough for me. I just want to read more, if it is not possible , then I will read them again. While I was reading these stories, I feel like sitting in a movie theater and watching a film of Rob and Barbara. In the film Barbara became alive, while i enjoyed the film, there was a small pain hidden somewhere in the corner of my heart. R,I,P Barbara.
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)Rob 2018-11-16 15:52
Hello Sarah, thank you for your compliments and I have good news for you as in the book I am writing my story is more detailled and more intens, the movie feeling will certainly be be enlarged.
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# Mrs.Sarah Huang 2018-11-17 11:46
Quoting Rob:
Hello Sarah, thank you for your compliments and I have good news for you as in the book I am writing my story is more detailled and more intens, the movie feeling will certainly be be enlarged.


Hello Rob, yes, I very much look forward to reading your new book, which will become a diamond in the treasure box for those who like Barbara and support your website forever.
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# Thank youCalvin Li 2018-12-09 16:42
Hi Rob,

Thank you for your sharing of the story between you and Barbara.


Best wishes,
Calvin
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# typoDuyun Huang 2019-04-11 01:00
Line 3 has a typo, "till her waste" should be "till her waist" I think.
Really appreciate all that you have done. Thank you Rob!
Sincerely,
Neil Huang
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# RE: typoRob 2019-04-11 07:25
Thank you for telling me, I corrected it.
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# wow!Zhuoye 2020-01-03 01:02
Rob, I am glad to see this website back. :roll:
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# RE: 01. How we met, 我们是怎么相识的 (1976)潘峰 2020-12-20 14:51
感谢您分享的事情
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